A 1000th topic: your existential major problems and our solutions or advice

Author: Art-Nova
Published: 214 days ago (19 october 2011)
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Quite often we face such problems in our lives that we are unable to decide what to do or what to choose for the best outcome for us and for people who depend on us.

Post your questions, stories, dilemmas here and we'll try to help you.

I'll start with the most common story which a lot of us go through at some point of our life: the existential crisis. That is when we begin to question who we are, our deeds, our future and most importantly the meaning of life.

It's possible to argue eternally on these question but there is one simple sole answer to all of them. Yep, it's the one and it's simple. We choose and we have to choose our personal meaning of life. It only depends on you. Why is it so? It's gonna sound harsh and unpleasant but everything that you know will some day perish. In the grand scheme of things nothing makes any sense. The universe will also die off in billion years from now. That's why you just have to choose for your own and on your own what to do with your life.

If you unable to make this choice remember this quotation from the Bible: "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth."

I don't much like religions but this thing could easily become the essence of your life. Find a good partner, create a family and become a good parent. That's the best you can do if you stuck in your existential crisis.
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zhul-gre # 18 february 2012 at 16:15 0
It COULD become the essence of your life. But until you have truly committed to creating a family, you would be buying yourself decades of misery and resentment if you jumped into it. Or you would "settle" for a mate that just wouldn't be the right person for you. You would also spend your days wondering what else is out there for you- what did you miss out on? Who could you have met? That kind of lingering question will drive you mad.

IMHO, one stuck in such an existential crisis should consider exploring the world. Help the homeless. Feed starving children. Fight to save endangered animals. Help re-build Japan. Join Doctors Without Borders. Or maybe just help the old lady next door cross the street. I guess I'm saying that the path to your purpose could begin outside of yourself. It may ulitmately lead to simply creating a family. But it is vital, crucial, imperative that you travel the entire path.

As it happens, I meandered down that path. I thought that perhaps my purpose was to save the environment. But eventually I discovered that it was to create a family. Then I had kids. I'm not saying I'm the best parent. But I think I'm better now because of my journey. For me parenthood must be the destination rather than a lay-over.

It would be interesting to hear others' stories. I don't think any two would be alike.